Posted by this man on this comment board:
I tend to think of the schism as like that of an estranged married couple. The Orthodox Church is like the wife who’s still tending the old home and garden, more or less content with her life, her grown children, and her friends. The Catholic Church is like the husband who went off to "bigger and better things," expecting his wife to come along with him because he, after all, is the lord and master. But she thinks he got too big for his britches and thus rejects his authoritarianism, his associations, and his newfangled ideas. She’s willing in principle to have him back if he chooses, but can’t quite decide whether it’s better to think the marriage is just over and done with. He’s more than willing for her to come along and join up with him again, and can’t quite understand why she continues to resist his entreaties as more of the Same Old Thing that landed them where they are.
When a couple like that talks, they usually fight.